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Couples west, London

Couple, west, she is the dominant one and people keep getting it backwards

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Looking for
friends and possibly a third who reads carefully
Experience
Six years together, this arrangement for four of them.
Around
west, London

Every single time we post anywhere, at least one person writes to him assuming he is in charge, and it has become a genuinely reliable way of sorting the inbox.

She is thirty five and dominant. He is thirty nine and submissive. That has been the shape of it for four of our six years and it is not a bedroom arrangement, it runs through the household. He does not need permission to speak. He does need permission for a number of other things and he prefers it that way.

We are in the west, both of us work, no children, and we have a spare room that is full of boxes we keep meaning to deal with.

What we are looking for, in order: friends who live like this, because we have almost none and we are tired of translating ourselves. And then possibly, eventually, one other person, most likely a submissive man, for something ongoing that both of us are part of. We are in no rush about the second thing and we will not be rushed.

Read that properly before writing. If your message treats her as decoration, or asks him whether she is really into it, we will not reply and we will not explain why. We are quite dull socially. Dinner, walks, long arguments about films. If you were hoping for something intense in a first month, we will not be it.

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