Married twenty five years, this at home for fifteen, no scene at all
Posted as the_long_way_round
- Looking for
- other people who live this at home and never go anywhere
- Experience
- Fifteen years of a household dynamic, entirely private.
- Around
- the commuter belt, London
We have been married twenty five years and doing this for fifteen of them without ever meeting another person who does it, which we have finally decided is a bit daft.
Fifties, both of us, out in the commuter belt. He leads the household, I run it, and that arrangement survived two career changes and a bad five years in the middle. It is not something we do on Saturdays. It is the operating system of the house, and most of it would look boring or invisible to anyone watching. What we would like is other couples in the same position. Not to play with. We are not interested in that at all and never have been. We want conversation with people who understand what we mean when we say the tone of a Tuesday matters more than anything dramatic.
Fair warning that we are set in our ways, we eat early, and neither of us drinks much any more. We have never been to anything, we are not going to start now, and we are aware that makes us hard to find. Hence this. If you are younger and this describes you, do write. We would not be mentoring anyone, because we have made all our own mistakes rather than learning from anybody else, but we would happily compare notes over a long lunch.