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Couples east, London

Couple, east, still disagreeing about this and posting anyway

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Looking for
a couple who have been through the same argument
Experience
Two years of trying, and one long unresolved conversation.
Around
east, London

We do not agree about how far this should go, we have not agreed for about eight months, and we are writing this together with that unresolved because we have decided hiding it would be a worse start.

Both thirty five, east London, together six years. One of us wants a full time dynamic and would happily restructure the whole household around it. The other wants it to stay in the evening and is honest that more than that feels frightening rather than exciting. Neither position is wrong. That is what makes it hard. We have talked about it endlessly, we have both moved a bit, and we are now at the point where we suspect what we need is not more talking but somebody who has been here.

So we are looking for a couple who went through the same disagreement, whichever way it ended, including the ones where it ended by settling in the middle or by deciding not to. We are not asking for advice exactly. We would just like to meet people for whom this was a real argument rather than a smooth journey, because every account we read online is a smooth journey and we are starting to feel like the only ones. We are not looking for a third, we are not looking for anything physical, and we would probably say no to it right now anyway given the above.

Dinner, both of us, somewhere we can hear each other. That is the ask.

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