Two free evenings a fortnight and I am not exaggerating
Posted as pilot_light
- Looking for
- a dominant who can build something out of very little time
- Experience
- Ten years before, almost nothing in the last four.
- Around
- north of the river, London
Alternate Fridays and alternate Saturdays. That is the entirety of my availability and it will be for another four years at least, so please decide now whether that is workable rather than three weeks in.
Forty five, north of the river, separated, two children who are with me most of the time. Before all that I had ten good years in this and one dynamic I still think of as the best relationship I have had. Since then, essentially nothing, because the logistics defeated me and I stopped trying. What has changed is that I have realised I do not need frequency. I need continuity. Something that carries on in the gaps: expectations, small daily things, being answerable to somebody even when we cannot see each other for a fortnight. Some dominants find that unsatisfying and I understand why.
I cannot host, ever, and I cannot stay out overnight except on those alternate weekends. The thing I would most like is to stop feeling that this part of me is finished. It is not, it has just been in storage, and I would rather it came out with somebody who is not going to treat a woman in her forties with two kids as a compromise.