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Dominants east, London

Dominant woman, east, I will absolutely make you a spreadsheet

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Looking for
someone who wants their week organised by somebody else
Experience
Five years, one dynamic of two and a half.
Around
east, London

I am aware that the fantasy version of a dominant is mysterious and unknowable, and I would like to set expectations early: I am a woman who colour codes things and I am not sorry.

Twenty seven, east London, work in operations, which is a polite way of saying I spend my day making other people's chaos into a list. It turns out I like doing that at home too, and the person I did it for last found it steadying rather than annoying, which was the discovery of my twenties.

So I want someone who wants structure. Genuinely wants it, not as an aesthetic. I will ask what your week looks like, I will notice which things you keep not doing, and then those things will become mine to decide about. If that sounds like a relief, write to me. If it sounds like being managed, you are correct, and you should not.

I am funny about it. This is not a solemn household. But I am consistent, which I think matters much more than being intimidating, and I have never once threatened anything I was not going to follow through. I do not do humiliation, I do not do anything that touches your job, and I am not interested in an arrangement that exists only in messages. Two evenings a week minimum or there is nothing to be consistent about.

Also: I am short, and if you make a joke about that in the first message you will not get a second.

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