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BDSM Dating

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Dominants north of the river, London

Dominant, north London, interested in one thing and not the rest

Posted as one_thing_well

Looking for
someone whose interest is as narrow as mine
Experience
Ten years, entirely focused on impact.
Around
north of the river, London

I do impact. That is what I am here for, that is what I have got good at over ten years, and it is very nearly the whole of my interest in this.

I say it plainly because the usual pattern is that people assume it is an opening position and that the rest of a lifestyle arrives later. It does not. I am not looking to own anybody, run their week, be called anything in particular, or be the centre of their life. What I want is a regular ongoing arrangement with one person for one thing, done carefully and done well. Thirty eight, north of the river, in a trade where my hands matter, which is possibly why the technical side of this appeals to me as much as it does. I read about it, I practise, I have a first aid certificate that is current, and I will bore you about tissue and bruising if you let me.

What this means in practice is that I am probably not enough for somebody who wants a dynamic. I have disappointed people that way and I would rather be honest at the top than kind at the fourth week. I am comfortable with someone who has a partner elsewhere, provided the partner knows.

If you have never done this before I am happy to be your first, but I will move slower than you want to and I will not be argued out of it.

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