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Dominants east, London

Dominant, east, mostly I want somebody to go to things with

Posted as steady_drum

Looking for
a partner for the social side as much as anything else
Experience
Seven years, one dynamic of three, ended amicably.
Around
east, London

The unglamorous truth is that I miss having somebody to go places with more than I miss anything else, and I have decided to say so rather than write a post about authority.

Thirty four, east London, I work in live sound so my week is upside down and my ears are worse than they should be. Seven years in this, one dynamic of about three that ended because she emigrated, and since then a lot of nice evenings that did not add up to anything. I am dominant and I am not going to pretend otherwise for the sake of sounding modern about it. I like being the one who decides, I like being deferred to, and I am reliable about the responsibility that comes with it. But the actual daily texture of what I want is more like a partner than a subject. Someone to stand about with in the corner of a room and quietly discuss everybody else.

So: a submissive who is sociable, who wants to be out in the world attached to somebody, and who does not want the whole thing to live indoors. I am terrible at texting and better on a phone call. That is a real limitation and I am not proud of it.

Not looking for anything that has to stay secret from everybody, because that rules out the entire point of this post, and not looking for an arrangement that only exists after dark.

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