Dominant man, north of the river, twenty two years and still learning
Posted as slow_clockwork
- Looking for
- one person, over years rather than weeks
- Experience
- Twenty two years. Three long dynamics, one of them fourteen years.
- Around
- north of the river, London
Twenty two years in, which mostly means I have been wrong about a great many things in public and had to correct myself afterwards.
I am fifty eight. Long dynamics are the thing I am actually good at. The last one ran fourteen years and ended because she wanted children and I did not. We still speak. I mention it because how a thing ends tells you more about a person than how it starts.
What I want is one person, over a long period, who wants structure inside ordinary life rather than an evening of it once a fortnight. Messages in the morning. Standards about small things. Correction that is boring and consistent rather than theatrical. That sounds dull written down, and it is, and it is also the part that lasts.
The practical shape of it, since people always ask: one evening a week to begin with, daily contact that is short rather than constant, and an honest review at three months at which either of us can end it without a scene. I am willing to teach and I have done a fair amount of it, but I am not offering training as a thing separate from a relationship, and nothing here involves money in either direction. If that is what you are after, my inbox is the wrong place.
I write in sentences and would like the same back. Not perfect spelling. Just sentences. I will not be hurried into meeting, I will not open with a list of activities, and I will not pretend the age gap does not exist. If you are in your twenties I am not going to say no on principle, but ask yourself honestly whether you want somebody nearer sixty than fifty.