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BDSM Dating

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Couples north of the river, London

We are open, we search separately, and we are posting this together

Posted as separate_searches

Looking for
people who understand that separate does not mean secret
Experience
Twelve years together, five of them open, both of us experienced.
Around
north of the river, London

We are not looking for someone for both of us. We are two people who each want their own thing and who have decided to write one post rather than two, because the way we do it is the most important information either of us has to give you.

Twelve years, open for five. She is submissive and looking for a dominant. He is dominant and looking for a submissive. Neither of us is involved in the other's arrangements and neither of us wants to be. We do not meet each other's people unless it happens naturally, and there is no shared timetable.

What we do have is a rule that there are no secrets between us. We both know who, roughly when, and how it is going. If you need to be hidden from a partner then we are the wrong people, and that has ended two things in five years.

Forties, north of the river, both working, one dog who is the actual reason we are never free on Sunday mornings. We are posting together because we got tired of the conversation at message ten where somebody realises there is a spouse and treats it as a revelation. It is not a revelation. It is on the first line.

Write to whichever of us your search is for. We will both see it, we will not both answer, and the one you did not write to will not take offence.

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