Service submissive, north of the river, and no sex at all
Posted as sunday_service
- Looking for
- a household arrangement with nothing physical in it
- Experience
- Six years, all of it service, none of it sexual.
- Around
- north of the river, London
The awkward part goes at the top: there is no sex in what I am looking for. Not as a limit I am nervous about, not as something that might soften later. It is simply not what this is for me.
I am forty one and I have been doing service for six years, twice in arrangements that ran over a year. What I get out of it is difficult to explain to people who assume the physical part is the engine. It is order. Somebody sets a standard, I meet it, and the week has a shape it does not otherwise have. In practice that has meant cooking, driving, keeping a diary, and doing the tedious administrative jobs other people put off for months. I am good at all of those and unusually calm about being corrected.
North of the river, I have a car, and I am free two evenings a week plus most of Sunday. What I need is for you to genuinely want the work done. Both arrangements that failed did so because the person liked the idea of being served and had nothing they actually wanted doing. Six weeks of inventing tasks is depressing for everybody.
I am not looking for a relationship, although I would like to be liked. I am not looking to be part of a household unless everyone living in it knows exactly what I am. And I am not for hire, which I should not have to write and apparently do.