I want this mostly in writing, and the geography is exactly why
Posted as mostly_in_writing
- Looking for
- a dominant willing to run most of it at a distance
- Experience
- Eight years, one four year dynamic conducted largely by letter.
- Around
- the far Valley, Los Angeles
I live forty minutes past where most people on this board think the county ends. Anybody who wants to see me in person twice a week is going to hate their life inside a month, and so am I, so I have stopped asking for that.
Fifty two, the far Valley, submissive, eight years in. The best thing I have had was four years with a woman a long way away, run almost entirely in writing. Instructions in the morning, an account of my day in the evening, a long conversation on Sundays, and the two of us in the same room about once every six weeks. It was the most structured and the most attended to I have ever felt, and it did not require either of us to sit on a freeway.
That is the shape I am asking for again. I know it reads as a lesser version of the real thing to a lot of people. It is not, to me. It suits how my attention works and it suits a life where I am up at half past four for a job that starts at six.
What I would want: proper daily contact, real expectations, and an occasional weekend where one of us travels and it matters because it is rare.
What I am not interested in is a stream of messages with nobody actually in charge of them, or somebody who wants this arrangement because they cannot commit to any other kind. There is a difference and I have learned to spot it.