Trans, submissive, and the second question is always the same
Posted as the_second_question
- Looking for
- somebody whose curiosity is about me rather than my body
- Experience
- Four years, mostly good, occasionally exhausting.
- Around
- the east side, Los Angeles
The first message is usually warm. The second message is almost always a question about my body, phrased as though it were a practical matter and not what it obviously is. I have answered it politely something like forty times and I have stopped.
Thirty, the east side, trans man, submissive, four years in. Six years on this coast, none of them anywhere I was not out. What I want is a dominant who is normal about it. Not celebratory, not so careful he cannot speak, not interested in me as a category. Somebody who asks what I like being called and then simply calls me that. It is a low bar and I have watched a striking number of experienced people walk straight into it.
The dynamic I want is a long one. Protocol I can hold in my head at work. Tasks. Somebody exacting about small things and entirely uninterested in humiliating me about my body, which is a boundary I resent having to state in public and state anyway.
I am on the east side, I will drive anywhere on this half of the county without complaining, and I will not do the Westside on a weekday evening, because I have tried and I arrived furious every time.
Do not write to tell me you have never been with someone like me but you are open minded. I believe you. I am not a first experience and I am not a question anybody gets to work out on.