From June to October I am nocturnal, and I mean that literally
Posted as nocturnal_until_october
- Looking for
- somebody who does not mind planning around a hundred degree afternoon
- Experience
- Fourteen years, both sides, and one memorable summer.
- Around
- the far Valley, Los Angeles
It is over a hundred degrees where I live from June until sometimes November. That is not a complaint, it is a scheduling constraint, and it governs half my year. In summer I do nothing at all between eleven and six. I get up early, I hide in the afternoon, and I come alive at nine at night.
Fifty, the far Valley, switch, fourteen years in. Which means my year has two entirely different personalities. From November to May I am the easiest person on this board to make a plan with. From June onwards I am a person who proposes ten at night or nothing, and who will not stand outside for anybody.
What I want is something ongoing that adapts to that rather than being defeated by it. I have had two dynamics quietly die in July, both times because the other person kept proposing afternoons and I kept saying no until it began to sound like reluctance.
I go both ways and I have a strong preference for doing both with one person over time. I am practical, unromantic in writing, and much softer in person than any of this suggests.
I am a long way out. Anybody in the middle of the county is looking at an hour to reach me and I will meet halfway most of the time. What I will not do is drive an hour each way twice a week in August, because I have tried it, and that is how you end up resenting somebody you like.