One afternoon a week, and no messages in between, on purpose
Posted as nothing_between_visits
- Looking for
- a dominant who is happy with a contained arrangement
- Experience
- Sixteen years, three arrangements, all of them deliberately small.
- Around
- the South Bay, Los Angeles
I want one afternoon a week and I do not want to hear from you in between. That is not coldness and it is not a test. It is the arrangement that has worked three times out of three, and I have stopped apologizing for asking for it directly.
Forty five, the South Bay, submissive, sixteen years in. I have a demanding job, a house, a large and loud family, and a phone that already asks more of me than I can give it. What I can offer is four or five hours a week of complete attention. What I cannot offer is a running conversation from Monday to Saturday.
Inside the afternoon I want a great deal. Real authority, a proper shape to the time, expectations I have prepared for in advance, and an honest conversation afterwards about what worked. I take it seriously. I write things down. I turn up.
I have been told this is transactional. I think that is wrong. Some of the most careful attention I have ever been given came from a man I saw for three hours every Wednesday for two years and exchanged perhaps four messages with outside of it.
If you want daily contact, and plenty of people reasonably do, we are simply not compatible, and working that out in the first exchange is a good result for both of us.