I am in four towns a week and home only at weekends
Posted as four_towns_a_week
- Looking for
- a dynamic that runs on daily contact and one meeting a month
- Experience
- Six years, one dynamic, ended because I was never actually there.
- Around
- the east of the city, Lyon
Monday I am in one town, Tuesday another, Wednesday somewhere an hour south, and by Thursday I could not tell you which hotel I am in without looking. I have done this for five years and I am not changing job, because it pays for a flat I am barely in.
Thirty four, submissive, nominally east of the city, six years in this. My one dynamic ended because she wanted somebody present and I was, on average, present on Sunday afternoons.
What I have concluded is that I need something built the other way round. The daily part is where it should live. Rules I keep on the road, a report at a fixed hour, tasks that travel, permissions I have to ask for from a car park. The physical part can be once a month, and I would rather it were a whole weekend than four rushed evenings.
I know that shape suits almost nobody, and I know it can look like a way of keeping somebody at a distance. It is the opposite. When I am away I want more contact rather than less, and the last person found that exhausting, which is entirely fair.
Being from here matters for the usual reason. I would rather not meet somebody who turns out to know my sister, and I will be a little careful at the start. Not looking for anyone who needs a weeknight. Not looking for a person who will read a missed call as a statement. Not looking to be talked into finding a local job.