Six years on this board, no bitterness, and one honest question
Posted as six_years_of_almost
- Looking for
- one person who wants a long arrangement and will actually begin one
- Experience
- Twenty one years, three dynamics, the most recent of them seven years ago.
- Around
- the 7th, Lyon
Six years on here. Roughly thirty conversations, eleven meetings, and two things that lasted longer than a month. I have counted, because at some point a person has to look at their own numbers, and mine suggest either that I am doing something wrong or that this city is exactly as small as it looks.
Fifty two, submissive, the 7th, twenty one years in this, although the last real arrangement ended seven years ago. I am not bitter and I want to be clear about that, because a post that smells of grievance gets nothing and probably deserves nothing.
What I have noticed is a pattern. Almost everything ends in the fourth or fifth week, at precisely the point where an occasional thing would have to become a committed one. Nobody is unkind about it. They simply stop, and I have come to suspect that the number of people here who want something long is far smaller than the number who say so.
So the honest question in the headline is this. Are you looking for years, or for a good autumn. Both are legitimate and I am only interested in the first. What I want is domestic and dull. Rules, service, a standing evening, being answerable, a review we hold rather than intend to hold.
Not looking for anybody who wants to see how it goes, which after six years I have learned is a polite no. Not looking for a correspondence. Not looking to be told to widen my criteria, which I have done twice and which produced two more fifth weeks.