BDSM personals in Lyon
Lyon is the second French board and it behaves nothing like the first. The pool is small enough that people worry about being recognised and say so, and the same names come round again, so posts are careful about who they name and generous about what they explain. Students give the city a churn every autumn that the rest of the board notices.
Posts come from the Presqu'île, Croix-Rousse, the 7th, Villeurbanne and the east of the city. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Submissives in Lyon
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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The first three times, same place, same hour, or I will not manage it
Looking for: a dominant who can be boringly predictable at the beginning
Four years, mostly typed, two meetings that went badly for reasons of my own.
I have an anxiety disorder that makes new situations extremely expensive for me, and the way I manage it is by removing every variable I can. What that means here is that the first three meetings need to be the same place, the same day of the week and the same hour. If that sounds rigid, it is because it is.
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I arrived last September and I leave in eighteen months, stated up front
Looking for: somebody who would rather have eighteen honest months than nothing
Two years, one dynamic, ended when I moved cities for the course.
I started a masters here last autumn and I finish in eighteen months, and after that I will almost certainly be somewhere else, because the work I want does not exist in this city. I have put it in the opening line instead of letting it surface in month three.
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Behind a counter in the centre, and I have served half this board
Looking for: somebody who will not be strange with me if we have already met
Two years, one short dynamic, a lot of nerve and very little practice.
I stand behind a counter in the centre six days a week and a great many people walk past me. Statistically I have already sold something to most of the people reading this, and twice I have worked out halfway through a conversation on here that I knew the face.
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No car, and everything I do has to survive the walk back up
Looking for: somebody who understands that the hill is a real constraint
Seven years, two dynamics, both with people at the bottom of the hill.
I live near the top of the hill and I do not drive. Everything I agree to has to survive the climb home at midnight, and I have learned the hard way that the version of me who is enthusiastic at eight in the evening is not the person doing the stairs at one in the morning.
Switches in Lyon
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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I have never walked into a room here on my own
Looking for: somebody to attend things with, before anything else at all
Seven years, both sides, entirely private, never in company.
Seven years in this and I have never been to anything, because arriving alone in a city this size means being the new face in a room where everybody already knows each other, and then being remembered as that for the next decade. I have got as far as the street twice.
Couples in Lyon
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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We moved down from Paris and assumed it would be the same
Looking for: a couple who will be patient with two people learning the local rules
Seven years together, five in this, all of it up north.
We arrived eighteen months ago expecting a smaller version of what we had left, and we were completely wrong. Up there we knew perhaps two hundred people loosely and nobody at all well, and you could be anonymous in a room of forty. Here we have met about twenty five people and every single one of them has turned out to be connected to at least two of the others.
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Second marriage for both of us, and we did this properly this time
Looking for: one submissive woman for something occasional and long lasting
Nine years together, seven of them in this, two short arrangements.
We each spent twenty years in a marriage where this was never mentioned, and both of those marriages ended for reasons unconnected to it, and possibly connected to everything we were never saying. When we met at forty one and forty four we agreed to be tediously honest from the start, and it is the best decision either of us has made.
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One of us is not ready, so we would like to write first
Looking for: a couple who would correspond for months before anybody meets
Five years together, two years of talking about this and nothing else.
One of us wants to do this and one of us wants to want to, and after two years of conversation we have arrived at something that suits us both. We would like to write to another couple, properly and at length, for a long time, before anybody suggests being in a room together.
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