I have never walked into a room here on my own
Posted as nobody_to_arrive_with
- Looking for
- somebody to attend things with, before anything else at all
- Experience
- Seven years, both sides, entirely private, never in company.
- Around
- the Presqu'île, Lyon
Seven years in this and I have never been to anything, because arriving alone in a city this size means being the new face in a room where everybody already knows each other, and then being remembered as that for the next decade. I have got as far as the street twice.
Thirty six, switch, central. Everything I have done has been one to one behind a closed door, which has been fine, and which has also meant I have never had a single conversation about any of this with somebody I was not involved with.
What I am looking for first is somebody to arrive with. That is genuinely the ask. A person in the same position who would rather be two people walking in than one, and who would leave when the other wanted to leave, with no questions about it.
If it became something else I would be glad, and I am not going to pretend otherwise, but I have watched people use the friendship version of this as a strategy and I would rather be honest that it is a real request on its own. I lead about half the time, I want something long, and I am in no hurry at all.
Not looking for anyone who is already well known here, because that solves my problem by making it very much worse. Not looking to be shown off to anybody. Not looking for a person who will spend the evening talking to everybody else, which is precisely the thing I am afraid of.