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Couples the east of the city, Lyon

Second marriage for both of us, and we did this properly this time

Posted as second_time_around

Looking for
one submissive woman for something occasional and long lasting
Experience
Nine years together, seven of them in this, two short arrangements.
Around
the east of the city, Lyon

We each spent twenty years in a marriage where this was never mentioned, and both of those marriages ended for reasons unconnected to it, and possibly connected to everything we were never saying. When we met at forty one and forty four we agreed to be tediously honest from the start, and it is the best decision either of us has made.

Fifty and fifty three, east of the city, together nine years, married six. He leads. I am submissive to him and I am also entirely in charge of the household, which we find funny and nobody else does.

What we are looking for is one submissive woman for something occasional and long. An evening or two a month with all three of us, running for years rather than a season. We have done two short arrangements, both of which ended pleasantly, and both of which taught us that we move too quickly at the beginning. So we have decided to be slow to the point of being irritating about it.

That means several conversations, then a meeting with all three of us, then more of those, then a written outline before anything at all begins. We will ask direct questions and we will expect them back.

Not looking for anyone who wants to be part of a household or to see us more than twice a month. Not looking for a person who wants only one of us, which is a fair thing to want and is not what this is. Not looking for somebody at the very start of all this, because neither of us wants to be anybody's first.

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