We know four other couples in this and it is always the same four
Posted as same_four_couples
- Looking for
- another couple, ideally one nobody has already told us about
- Experience
- Ten years together, six of them in this, four friendships to show for it.
- Around
- the Presqu'île, Lyon
There are four other couples we see. We have had dinner with all of them repeatedly, we like three of them a great deal, and at the last of those dinners we realised that every single person present had been introduced to us by somebody else at the table. That is a closed loop, and it has been closed for about three years.
Thirty five and thirty seven, central, together ten years, six of them with this in the marriage. She leads, he does not, and that is settled and not what we are here about.
What we want is to widen the loop by exactly one. Another couple, preferably one who did not arrive through the same four people, for friendship first and honestly probably friendship only. Dinner. An argument about something. The occasional weekend somewhere else.
We are aware of the difficulty. In a city this size a new couple is either already known to our four, in which case there will be opinions before we have finished the starter, or they are entirely new to all of it, which is a different kind of work. We are open to both and we would rather say so than pretend to be casual about it.
Not looking for a third. Not looking for a couple who want to play at a first meeting, which has happened twice and both times we left early. Not looking to be added to somebody else's closed loop of four, which we suspect is the likeliest outcome and which we would notice by about the second dinner.