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Submissives the 7th, Lyon

Three times now I have opened a message and known the person

Posted as third_time_colleague

Looking for
somebody outside the small circle I keep walking into
Experience
Five years, two dynamics, one of them ended by a coincidence.
Around
the 7th, Lyon

Three times in five years I have opened a message here and recognised the person writing it. Once from work. Once from a friend's kitchen. And once, last autumn, a man who had been at my sister's wedding, which I have still not entirely recovered from.

Thirty one, submissive, I work in a laboratory in the south of the city, and the honest content of this post is that Lyon is small in a way people from elsewhere refuse to believe until it happens to them. I am not paranoid. I have simply learned that the odds here are not the odds anywhere else.

So I explain more than most people do and I name almost nothing, which I understand can read as evasive. It is not. I will tell you exactly what I want, what I have done, and what I will not do. I will not tell you where I work or who I know until we have met and I have decided you are not somebody I will run into at a christening.

What I want is a long dynamic with structure in it. Service, rules, a set evening, correction that is spoken. I have no interest in impact and never have. I live alone and I can host, which in this city appears to be rarer than it ought to be.

Not looking for anybody who wants to trade the names of people we both know as a way of establishing credentials, which happens constantly here and which I have come to dislike intensely. Not looking for a first meeting anywhere central. Not looking for anything that requires me to be photographed.

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