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Submissives the Presqu'île, Lyon

A colleague is on this board and neither of us has ever mentioned it

Posted as we_both_said_nothing

Looking for
somebody who takes discretion as seriously as this city requires
Experience
Eight years, three dynamics, none known to a single friend.
Around
the Presqu'île, Lyon

Eighteen months ago I recognised a colleague's post on here. Same employer, same floor, and enough detail that there was no doubt at all. I said nothing. He has almost certainly recognised mine and he has said nothing either. We have worked side by side ever since and neither of us will ever raise it, and honestly I think that is the most Lyon thing that has ever happened to me.

Thirty six, submissive, working in the centre, eight years in. Not one friend of mine knows, and no dynamic of mine has ever been visible to anybody.

I set that out at length because it establishes the terms. I will be slow. I will not send photographs. I will not meet centrally. And I will ask some direct questions about who you know before we meet, which people occasionally find insulting, and which I am going to do anyway.

In exchange I am extremely straightforward about everything else. What I want is a long arrangement with structure: rules that run daily, a standing evening, service, and correction that is spoken rather than applied. I have no interest in impact, which surprises people, and I am not going to develop one at this stage.

Not looking for anybody who will tell me that everyone here is discreet, because everyone here is discreet until a bad ending. Not looking for someone who wants to be seen with me anywhere. Not looking for anything that involves a group of any size at all.

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