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Couples Villeurbanne, Lyon

Both broke, both in a shared flat, and both completely serious about this

Posted as we_cannot_host_either

Looking for
people who understand that having no space is not having no commitment
Experience
Four years together, two in this, all of it improvised.
Around
Villeurbanne, Lyon

We share a flat with two other people, we have almost no money, and every conversation we have had on this board has ended at the moment somebody asks where. That is the whole obstacle. Not compatibility, not experience, not nerve. A door.

Twenty eight and thirty, Villeurbanne, together four years, two of them with this between us. We came here as students and stayed, which in this city means we are still filed under temporary by people who have never actually asked.

What we can offer is time, reliability and a genuine appetite for the unglamorous parts. We turn up. We answer messages. We are perfectly happy with the long slow version in which nothing happens for two months. What we cannot offer is a place, ever, for the foreseeable future, and we are tired of finding out that this is disqualifying at message four rather than message one.

He is submissive, she switches, and we are looking for a dominant woman for both of us. Or honestly, at this point, friends in the same position who would like to complain about rents together.

Not looking for anybody who will offer to solve the accommodation problem, which has been proposed to us in a way that made us both uncomfortable. Not looking for a couple who want to host us as a favour and be thanked for it. Not looking for anything that assumes people our age are not serious, which is the assumption underneath most of what we have run into here.

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