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Switches the south of the city, Madrid

My working day starts at five so the sun does not get me

Posted as before_the_heat

Looking for
someone whose hours are as strange as the climate makes mine
Experience
Nine years, both directions, one dynamic of three years.
Around
the south of the city, Madrid

I work outdoors, on sites, and from May to September I start at five in the morning and finish at one, because after that the temperature makes the work dangerous. For four months of the year I am asleep at nine in the evening, in a city where nothing social begins before eleven.

Thirty nine, Madrid, switch, nine years in this. That timetable has been the single largest obstacle in every attempt I have made, larger than distance, larger than compatibility, larger than any question of what either of us actually wanted.

The strange upside is my afternoons. From two in the afternoon I am free, awake and useless to nobody, four days a week, all summer. If you work from home, or you work nights, or your week has a hole in it in the middle of the day, we have more overlap than almost anybody else on this board.

In the winter I return to something like a normal life and can be out until midnight like a human being. What I want is one person, over a long time, either direction. I lead with people who want a firm hand about practical things and I follow with people who are calm and specific. I have very little interest in pain in either direction and quite a lot in restraint and instruction.

I am plain spoken and I do not write beautiful messages. What I do is turn up when I said I would, which around here is rarer than eloquence.

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