I am away from May to September and I will not lie about it
Posted as gone_till_october
- Looking for
- a dominant whose interest survives a summer of absence
- Experience
- Three years, two dynamics, both ended in the same month of the year.
- Around
- Lavapiés, Madrid
I play in a band and from the beginning of May to the end of September I am somewhere else almost every week. Not glamorously. Small towns, festivals in places you have never heard of, a van, four other people and a great deal of waiting around in the heat.
Twenty eight, Madrid, submissive, three years in. My two dynamics both ended in June. Not because anybody behaved badly, but because a dynamic in which one person vanishes for five months needs to be designed for that from the start, and both of mine were designed for a person who was around. So I am posting in July, at my least available and least convincing, on purpose.
What I think would work is something that lives mostly in instruction rather than in presence. Rules I keep on the road. Things I report on daily. A voice call at strange hours. Then October to April, when I am in the city almost every night and can be exactly the person you thought you were getting.
What will not work is anybody who wants weekly time in a room all year. That is a perfectly normal thing to want and I am simply not able to provide it for half of every year.
I am cheerful, I am scruffy, I am chronically late to everything except work. I have no interest in pain and quite a lot of interest in being told what to do by somebody with better judgement than mine, which is not a high bar in July.