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Submissives the outer ring, Madrid

The one man in Spain who is asleep by eleven, and I mean it

Posted as six_in_the_morning

Looking for
a dominant who thinks discipline is a daily thing, not an evening
Experience
Seven years, two dynamics, both built around training.
Around
the outer ring, Madrid

I run before work, every day, at six, which in this country makes me either a foreigner or a lunatic and I am neither. I am forty nine, from Madrid, and I have been getting up at that hour for eleven years because it is the only time this city is cool enough and quiet enough to be worth being outside in.

What that means socially is that I am useless after ten at night, which is exactly when everyone else here becomes available. I have watched three conversations on boards like this collapse purely over that.

Submissive, seven years. What I want is a dynamic built around discipline in the literal sense: a training structure, standards, someone who sets what the week contains and expects a report on whether it happened. Both my previous dynamics worked this way and I have no appetite for anything else.

To be clear about a thing people assume: I do not want pain. Not as punishment, not as motivation, not at all. Correction that works on me is being told plainly that I fell short and having the standard restated. It has never needed to be anything more than that.

I can be free early. I can be free on a Saturday morning when the whole city is asleep. I can also do a weekday afternoon at short notice, because my work is my own. If you are somebody whose own day starts before eight, we may be the only two people on this board who can actually meet each other.

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