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Submissives the east of the city, Madrid

Twenty four, Madrid, four flatmates, and thin walls everywhere

Posted as four_flatmates

Looking for
someone with a door that closes properly
Experience
Eighteen months, one dynamic, ended when he moved home.
Around
the east of the city, Madrid

I share a flat with four other people and a corridor you can hear a phone vibrate from. There is no version of my life in which anything happens at my address, and I have discovered that this rules me out for a startling number of people who did not think to mention it until the fourth message.

Twenty four, Madrid, submissive, eighteen months into this. One real dynamic, which lasted seven months and ended when he finished his degree and went home to the coast, which I do not resent and which I saw coming from about month two.

I work two part time jobs and I study, so my week is chaotic in a way I cannot fix. What I can offer is that I am reliable about the things that are actually mine to control: I answer messages, I do what I said I would do, I turn up when I said I would turn up, and I say so in advance when I cannot.

What I want is structure that costs nothing. Rules about sleep, about study, about how I speak to you. I am extremely good at doing what I am told and extremely bad at making myself do anything without being told.

I am not going to pretend the hosting question is not the whole practical problem here. I would rather put it in the first paragraph than let it ambush us both later. Not looking for anyone who thinks twenty four means uncomplicated. Not looking for someone who will tell me what I want before I have finished the sentence.

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