She leads and she has nobody to ask about any of it
Posted as no_one_to_ask
- Looking for
- an experienced dominant woman willing to be a friend
- Experience
- Together eleven years, four with her leading, entirely self taught.
- Around
- the near suburbs, Madrid
Four years ago we rearranged our marriage so that I lead it, and it has been the best thing that has happened to either of us, and I have been doing the whole of it alone out of books and guesswork.
That is what this post is about. He is fine. He has this board, he has read everything, he has plenty of company in the abstract. I have nobody at all to ask. There is no one I can say to, honestly, that I got something wrong last month and it frightened me a bit, or that I am tired of being the one who decides and I am not allowed to say so inside the thing I built.
So we are looking, together, for an experienced dominant woman who would be willing to know us. Coffee. Conversation. Someone I could ask a stupid question of without it becoming a whole event. If that grows into something more involved over a long time, we are open to talking about it, but that is not the ask and I do not want to disguise the ask.
We are forty three and forty five, in Madrid, and both of us are here writing this rather than one of us. We are not asking anybody to be an unpaid mentor and we would want it to be mutual in whatever way made sense.
Not looking for men who want to explain leading to me. Three have already. Not looking for anybody who wants to watch. And not looking for advice that begins with the phrase you should just.