Madrid couple, and my husband is present for all of it
Posted as he_stays_in_the_room
- Looking for
- a dominant man comfortable with two people in the room
- Experience
- Married sixteen years, this discussed for three, acted on twice.
- Around
- the east of the city, Madrid
We want to be very clear at the top, because it is where every previous conversation has broken down. He is present. Not in another room, not waiting downstairs, not informed afterwards. In the room, watching, and part of the arrangement by being there.
I am the submissive one. He is not submissive and he is not dominant, he simply wants to be there, and after three years of talking about it we have concluded that this is not a stage he will move past and it is not a problem to be fixed.
We are forty four and forty six, married sixteen years, in Madrid. We have acted on this twice, with the same person, over about five months last year, and it ended when he moved for work. It was good. It taught us how specific we need to be in a post like this.
What we are looking for is a dominant man who genuinely does not find the arrangement awkward. Some people find it interesting, some people find it unbearable, and the ones who say they are fine and then act otherwise cost everybody months. Everything would be slow. Meeting first, several times, all three of us. Talking about limits at length. Nothing at all happening for a good while.
Not looking for anybody who wants him to participate. Not looking for anybody who wants to negotiate him out of the room. And not looking for someone who cannot say the word no to me if I ask for something we have not agreed.