Switch, and once a month I cross the whole city and stay the night
Posted as once_a_month_north
- Looking for
- someone who will meet me halfway in every sense
- Experience
- Five years, mostly across town, one dynamic of eighteen months.
- Around
- the south of the city, Madrid
Once a month I go north across this city on a Friday, spend the evening and the night up there, and come home the following afternoon. I have been doing it for three years. It is the only way I have found to have any real practice in this, because nothing here begins before eleven and the last train back to my side leaves long before anything has finished.
Thirty one, Madrid, switch, five years in. There are people down my end, of course there are, but the circle is small and I have already met most of it and it turns out that I know two of them socially in ways that make anything else impossible.
What I am looking for is not actually a person in the north of the city. It is a person anywhere in Madrid who is willing to treat an hour on the metro as a normal part of an arrangement rather than a heroic gesture. Somebody who would come south to me sometimes. Somebody who would let me come to them the rest of the time. Somebody who lives between the two of us, which is obvious and which nobody ever suggests.
I lead and follow roughly equally and I am equally impatient in both directions. I want somebody who plans, because a dynamic conducted across a city this size dies without planning and I have watched it happen.
I am not interested in a purely written arrangement. I have had one and it was pleasant and it was not enough. I am also not interested in anyone who assumes the person who does not live in the middle should always be the one who travels.