Two of us, both submissive, which everyone tells us is a problem
Posted as same_side_of_it
- Looking for
- a dominant willing to see two people who are already a pair
- Experience
- Together six years, submissive both, no shared experience of it.
- Around
- the centre, Madrid
We are two men in our thirties, together six years, and we are both submissive. Every time we say that out loud somebody explains our own relationship to us as though we had not noticed.
It is not actually the crisis people imagine. Ninety five per cent of our life together has nothing to do with any of this. What we are missing is the other five, and we have never worked out how to get it without one of us pretending, which we tried for about four months in our second year and which was a small disaster neither of us enjoyed.
So we are looking for a dominant, of any gender, willing to take on two people who arrive as a unit. Occasional rather than constant. Something with structure to it that runs for a long time rather than an evening that happens once and gets talked about for a year.
We are aware this is an unusual ask and that we will be waiting a while. We would rather wait than write something vaguer and spend the summer explaining ourselves to people who wanted something else. One of us is talkative and one is not. The quiet one is not sulking, he is simply quiet, and every previous conversation has at some point required this sentence.
Madrid, both of us, and we can travel within reason. We would want to meet you together, in public, more than once, before anything at all. And we are not interested in being anybody's first experiment with a pair, unless you say so plainly and we can decide about it together.