Six months out of the city, six months here, every year
Posted as two_addresses
- Looking for
- someone who can hold something together through a season
- Experience
- Eight years, several short things, nothing that survived a summer.
- Around
- Chamberí, Madrid
From April to October my work takes me out of Madrid in blocks and I am back in my own bed four or five nights a month if I am lucky. From November to March I am here with an empty calendar and nothing to do. I have lived like this for nine years and I do not intend to stop.
Thirty five, switch, eight years in this. Every connection I have made has been made in winter, when I am present and available and good company, and every one of them has died in May, when I go and my messages get shorter and the other person concludes, reasonably, that they have been dropped.
So this post is deliberately being written in June, in the middle of the difficult half, rather than in January when I am at my most convincing.
What I want to know is whether somebody exists who can build something that survives a season of thin contact. I do not need daily attention in the summer. I need it not to end because I have gone quiet for three weeks in August.
I lead slightly more than I follow. I am much better at following with someone I have known a long time, which is exactly the thing my life makes difficult. If you also work a season, or your job takes you away in blocks, or you are simply one of the people who vanishes from this city for the whole of August, you will understand all of this without me explaining it further, and you are probably the person I should be writing to.