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Switches Malasaña, Madrid

Thirty four, seasonal work, and no address between November and March

Posted as no_fixed_winter

Looking for
someone who does not need to know where I will be in January
Experience
Seven years, entirely made of short things, and I am tired of that.
Around
Malasaña, Madrid

I have worked seasons since I was twenty three. Summers here, winters wherever the work is, which has been the mountains, an island, and one very strange year in a ski town in another country where I did not speak a word of the language.

Thirty four, in Madrid for the warm half of the year, switch, seven years in this. What I have is a great deal of experience with people and almost none with anybody twice. Every relationship of any kind I have had since I was twenty three has had an end date built into it before it started, and I have got extremely good at the beginning of things and have no practice at all at the middle.

What I want to try now is the middle. Something that continues when I am not physically present. I am aware that I am asking somebody to invest in a person who cannot promise where they will be sleeping in four months, and I am not going to pretend that is a small ask.

What I can promise is that I am honest about it in advance, always, which is more than I managed at twenty five. I lead a bit more than I follow. I like rope and I like rules and I dislike anything that needs an expensive amount of equipment, for the obvious reason that I move twice a year with one bag.

If you are also seasonal, or if you have a life that already suits somebody being away for stretches, please write. I think we would understand each other about six sentences in.

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