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Submissives Salford, Manchester

Four on, four off, and a degree I am failing to do alone

Posted as four_on_four_off

Looking for
structure and accountability from someone who follows through
Experience
Two years, one short dynamic, a lot of reading in break rooms.
Around
Salford, Manchester

I work four days on and four days off in a distribution place out past Salford, and I am two modules into a part time degree that I am quietly failing because nobody is checking whether I have done anything. That is what I actually want out of this. Somebody checking.

Twenty six, submissive, two years in, one dynamic that lasted five months and fell apart when he decided rules were boring once he had made them.

I know how this sounds. I know there is a version of what I am asking for that is just paying somebody attention to make me finish an essay. But it is not only that. I want to answer to someone. I want a set of expectations that exist whether or not I feel like meeting them that day, and consequences that are real and not a joke we both stop taking seriously in week three.

My rota moves so my week is never the same twice, which has already annoyed two people. I can tell you my shifts eight weeks in advance if that helps, and I am very good at turning up when I have said I will.

Not looking for anybody who wants to talk all day every day, because I am on a floor with no phone for twelve hours at a time. Not looking for someone who will make the rules and then forget them. Not looking to move fast, because I have nowhere to be for four years.

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