BDSM personals in Manchester
Manchester is big enough to have a real pool and small enough that people recognise each other, which shapes every post on this board. Discretion here is less about hiding from strangers and more about the fact that the person reading your post may well know somebody you know. That makes people slower to post and franker when they do.
Posts come from the city centre, the northern quarter, Salford, Stockport and Didsbury. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Manchester
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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Sixty two, dominant, and only interested in people whose lives are steady
Looking for: a submissive who is already settled in the rest of their life
Thirty one years, four long dynamics, two of them lessons.
Twice I have taken on somebody who was in the middle of something. Once a divorce, once a redundancy and a bereavement in the same year. Both times I told myself that structure would help, and both times what actually happened is that I became the entire scaffolding of a person's life for about eight months and then watched it come down when they found their feet, which they did, and I was glad, and it still took me a year to recover from each one.
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Dominant man, retired, and genuinely only available before noon
Looking for: a submissive whose days are their own
Twenty nine years, three formal arrangements, the last of them ten.
I am up at five and I am no use to anybody after about two in the afternoon. That is not a preference I could be talked out of, it is what forty years of early shifts has done to me, and every arrangement I have had since retiring has worked in the morning or not at all.
Submissives in Manchester
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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Four on, four off, and a degree I am failing to do alone
Looking for: structure and accountability from someone who follows through
Two years, one short dynamic, a lot of reading in break rooms.
I work four days on and four days off in a distribution place out past Salford, and I am two modules into a part time degree that I am quietly failing because nobody is checking whether I have done anything. That is what I actually want out of this. Somebody checking.
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I care for my mother, so two hours is the most I have
Looking for: something real built inside a very small amount of time
Ten years, two dynamics, both before my mother became ill.
My mother has dementia and lives with me. There is a woman who sits with her on Thursday afternoons and another who comes on alternate Saturday mornings, and outside those windows I do not leave the house for longer than a shop takes. That is the shape of my life and it will be the shape of it for some time. Forty eight, Stockport, submissive, ten years in, though nothing at all in the last three.
Switches in Manchester
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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I want this in the ordinary hours, not in an evening set aside
Looking for: a dynamic made of small daily things rather than sessions
Seven years, three dynamics, the good one was almost entirely daily.
The best two years I have had of this involved almost nothing that anybody would recognise as a scene. It was a list of small things I did every day, a way I was expected to speak to her, a fifteen minute call at ten at night, and a standard about how I kept my flat. We saw each other twice a month and it was the most consuming thing I have ever been part of.
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Fifty one, twenty five years in, and I have never joined anything
Looking for: one friendship that turns into something, at its own speed
Twenty five years, four long relationships, no group involvement at all.
I have been doing this since the mid nineties and I have never belonged to anything. No group, no circle, no crowd who all know each other. Four long relationships, each of which contained all of this, and in between them very little. It is not shyness and it is not disapproval of anyone else. I simply do not want to be in a scene, and after twenty five years I have stopped expecting that to change.
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Yes she knows, no she is not involved, and that will not change
Looking for: one connection of my own, with someone who is fine with the shape of it
Ten years, two dynamics since we opened things up, both short.
The first question is always the same, so here is the answer in the first line. My wife knows. She has known for eleven years. She has no interest in any of this herself, she does not want to meet anybody, and she does not want to hear the details. That was negotiated properly, over about a year, and it is not a loophole I am exploiting.
Couples in Manchester
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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Couple looking for a mentor for him, not a third for us
Looking for: an experienced dominant willing to teach the one who leads here
Together four years, this at home for two, self taught and showing it.
This is not the post you think it is. We are not looking for a third, we are not looking for a couple, and nothing about this involves anybody touching either of us. We are looking for somebody experienced who would be willing to teach him.
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Two submissives, and we would rather you started with just one
Looking for: a dominant willing to build with one of us before both
Together seven years, both submissive, one previous arrangement.
We are both submissive, we are both looking, and the thing we have learned is that starting with both of us at once does not work. We tried it. Two years ago we found somebody we liked a great deal and the three of us spent four months being permanently slightly out of step, because every conversation had to work for three people before anything could happen.
Writing your own
Reading fifty of these is the easy half. The handbook covers the rest.
- Writing a profile that says something
- Photographs, and staying anonymous enough
- The safety basics, in one page
- What a first meeting is actually like
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