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Dominants Didsbury, Manchester

Sixty two, dominant, and only interested in people whose lives are steady

Posted as not_a_crisis_service

Looking for
a submissive who is already settled in the rest of their life
Experience
Thirty one years, four long dynamics, two of them lessons.
Around
Didsbury, Manchester

Twice I have taken on somebody who was in the middle of something. Once a divorce, once a redundancy and a bereavement in the same year. Both times I told myself that structure would help, and both times what actually happened is that I became the entire scaffolding of a person's life for about eight months and then watched it come down when they found their feet, which they did, and I was glad, and it still took me a year to recover from each one.

Sixty two, Didsbury, dominant woman, thirty one years in. So my requirement is unromantic. Come to me with a life already working. Friends you would still have if this ended tomorrow. Work you are not in the middle of losing. Somewhere to live that is not conditional on anybody.

If you are in the middle of something, I am not saying no forever. I am saying not now, and I would genuinely rather hear from you in a year.

What I offer is formality, consistency, and a long arrangement with somebody who wants to be good at something. I am patient and I am very hard to shock.

Not looking to be anyone's recovery. Not looking for a person who describes themselves as broken, which I have started treating as a full stop rather than an invitation. Not looking for anything that begins with an urgent need for it to begin.

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