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Couples Salford, Manchester

Couple looking for a mentor for him, not a third for us

Posted as teaching_him_not_us

Looking for
an experienced dominant willing to teach the one who leads here
Experience
Together four years, this at home for two, self taught and showing it.
Around
Salford, Manchester

This is not the post you think it is. We are not looking for a third, we are not looking for a couple, and nothing about this involves anybody touching either of us. We are looking for somebody experienced who would be willing to teach him.

Twenty nine and thirty one, Salford, together four years. Two years ago we started doing this at home and it has been the best thing to happen to us. It has also been entirely self taught, off the internet, and there are moments when we both know he is guessing and neither of us knows what the right answer looks like.

He is the one who leads. He is also the one who reads for three hours and then worries he has read the wrong things. What he needs is an experienced dominant, of any gender, who will talk to him. Answer questions. Tell him when something he is doing is a bad habit. Be honest about the parts nobody writes about, like what you do when you have got it wrong and the person you got it wrong with is your partner.

We know mentoring in this world has a poor reputation and we know exactly why. So to be plain: conversation only, nothing physical, and I am in every conversation or it does not happen.

Not looking for anybody who treats teaching as a route to access. Not looking for someone who wants to talk to him about me rather than to me. Not looking to be anybody's demonstration.

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