Two years sober, so every meeting has to work without a drink
Posted as nothing_in_the_glass
- Looking for
- a dominant for whom an alcohol free evening is not a compromise
- Experience
- Eleven years, two dynamics, one of which ended because of my drinking.
- Around
- Salford, Manchester
I do not drink and I am not going to be in places where that is the point. Two years in September. It is the most important thing about my week and it is not a preference I can be flexible about for one evening because somebody has booked something nice.
Thirty nine, Salford, submissive, eleven years in this, and one of my two dynamics ended because of exactly what you would expect. She was patient for longer than she should have been. I do not blame her for the ending and I am not going to pretend it was anybody else's doing.
What I have found since is that a surprising amount of this world is arranged around a drink, and a surprising number of people treat not having one as an eccentricity to be accommodated for a couple of months and then quietly worked around.
What I want is something long and structured with somebody who does not need to be talked into a coffee at two in the afternoon. I am good at rules. I am extremely good at reporting honestly, because I have had a lot of practice at telling the truth about awkward things, and it turns out that skill transfers.
Not looking for anyone who wants me to loosen up. Not looking to be somebody's evidence of how supportive they are. Not looking for a person who will ask, in the first week, exactly how bad it got.