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Couples the city centre, Manchester

Two submissives, and we would rather you started with just one

Posted as one_of_us_first

Looking for
a dominant willing to build with one of us before both
Experience
Together seven years, both submissive, one previous arrangement.
Around
the city centre, Manchester

We are both submissive, we are both looking, and the thing we have learned is that starting with both of us at once does not work. We tried it. Two years ago we found somebody we liked a great deal and the three of us spent four months being permanently slightly out of step, because every conversation had to work for three people before anything could happen.

Thirty three and thirty five, city centre, together seven years, married for two of them.

So what we are proposing is odd but we think it is better. Start with one of us. Build something real, at its own pace, without the other one in the room. If in six months everybody wants the other half of this, wonderful, and if not, that is a good outcome too and nobody has failed.

Which of us you start with is genuinely open, and we are not going to be competitive about it, which I say knowing exactly how that sounds. We have talked about it more than we have talked about anything in years. We are looking for a dominant of any gender, for something ongoing rather than occasional.

Not looking for anyone who wants to treat us as a matched pair. Not looking to be a novelty for somebody who fancies having two of something. Not looking for a person who cannot cope with the fact that we will discuss them with each other, because we will, always, and we would rather you knew that.

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