Dominant woman, away half the month, and honest about what that means
Posted as two_weeks_in_four
- Looking for
- a submissive who does well with distance and a fixed rhythm
- Experience
- Eleven years, two dynamics, both of them run partly at distance.
- Around
- the city centre, Manchester
Roughly two weeks in every four I am not in this country. It is the job, it is not going to change, and it is the single fact that decides whether anything with me is going to work.
Thirty six, dominant, based in the centre when I am here at all. Eleven years in, two long dynamics, both of which ran through long absences and one of which survived it very well.
Here is what I have learned about doing this from a hotel room in another time zone. Daily contact is not the thing that holds it together. Structure is. Things you do at fixed times whether or not I am awake, reported honestly, in a form we agreed at the start. The weeks I am here then become something you have been building towards rather than the only weeks that count.
What I want is one person, ongoing, who finds that rhythm steadying rather than starving. Some people are much happier with a fortnight of intensity and a fortnight of quiet than with a low simmer every day. If that is you, this is a good arrangement and not a compromise.
I do not do well with people who need constant reassurance, and I say that with no judgement of anyone who does. It is simply the one thing I cannot supply on a Tuesday from six hours ahead. Not looking for anyone who wants to travel with me. Not looking for something occasional. Not looking to be somebody's holiday.