Divorced in March, and I am not ready for anything serious
Posted as divorced_in_march
- Looking for
- friendship and slow conversation with no expectations attached
- Experience
- Fourteen years, both sides, all of it inside one marriage.
- Around
- Fort Lauderdale, Miami
The paperwork finished in March after two years of being finished emotionally. We were together nineteen years and this was in it for fourteen of them, which means everything I know about myself in this context I learned with one person who is no longer in my life.
Forty eight, Fort Lauderdale, switch, and completely uninterested in a relationship right now.
I want to be honest about where I am rather than perform readiness and then disappear on somebody in October. What I want, at the moment, is conversation. People to talk to about this who are not my ex wife and are not my friends, none of whom know. Possibly, eventually, something slow. Not now.
The strange part of a long marriage ending is discovering how much of your own taste was negotiated. I know what we did. I am genuinely unsure what I would choose on my own, and I would like the space to find out without somebody waiting on the answer.
I go both ways, or I did with her, which may turn out to be the same sentence.
If you are looking for something to begin properly this year, I am the wrong person and I would rather say so at the top. If you are interested in a long correspondence and a coffee with nothing attached, I would be very glad to hear from you.