Partnered, open, and my husband has no interest in any of this
Posted as husband_not_interested
- Looking for
- a dominant who is comfortable being the second thing in my week
- Experience
- Five years, one dynamic of three, ended amicably.
- Around
- Wynwood, Miami
I have been married eleven years to a man who knows exactly what I am, is entirely comfortable with it, and does not want to participate in any way. He is not curious. He is not secretly hurt. He asked me once what it gives me, listened to the answer, and has never needed to discuss it again.
Thirty three, Wynwood, submissive, five years in, three of them with one dominant who moved away last year.
I am saying this up front because it is the thing that gets misread. People assume either that my husband is on the other side of a door somewhere, or that this is a marriage in trouble. Neither is true. This is an ordinary open arrangement with clear terms, agreed by two adults, and it has worked for five years.
What that means for you: you will never meet him unless you want to and he agrees, you are not a secret, and there is no drama waiting to arrive. What it also means is that I have one or two evenings a week and I am not available on holidays, birthdays or weekends away.
I want a real dynamic in that space. Rules, expectations, structure between meetings. Not an occasional evening.
If a partnered submissive is a complication you would rather not have, that is completely reasonable, and I would rather you decided now.