BDSM personals in Miami
Miami moves quickly and a good part of the board is transient: people here for a season, for work, for a few weeks. That cuts both ways. It is easy to meet somebody and harder to build anything slow, so the posts split sharply between people who want exactly that speed and people who are tired of it and say so in the first line.
Posts come from South Beach, Brickell, Coral Gables, Wynwood and Fort Lauderdale. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Miami
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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One evening a week, for years, and nothing more dramatic than that
Looking for: a submissive who finds routine reassuring rather than dull
Twenty years, three dynamics, the shortest of them four years.
Every dynamic I have had has looked the same from the outside. One evening a week, the same evening, for years. Nothing intense, nothing that would make a story, and by year two an enormous amount happening inside a routine that would bore anybody watching.
Submissives in Miami
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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I teach here, and half this city knows my face
Looking for: a dominant who understands that I can never be recognized
Eight years, two dynamics, both conducted quietly.
I have taught in the same few square miles for twelve years. I cannot go to a supermarket without being greeted by somebody whose child I taught, and their parents talk to each other constantly, and that is the entire reason this post exists in the form it does.
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Partnered, open, and my husband has no interest in any of this
Looking for: a dominant who is comfortable being the second thing in my week
Five years, one dynamic of three, ended amicably.
I have been married eleven years to a man who knows exactly what I am, is entirely comfortable with it, and does not want to participate in any way. He is not curious. He is not secretly hurt. He asked me once what it gives me, listened to the answer, and has never needed to discuss it again.
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Everyone here is wonderful for eleven days, and then they are gone
Looking for: somebody who is still going to be here at Christmas
Six years, four dynamics, none of them longer than a season.
I have counted. The average length of every connection I have made in this city is somewhere around eleven days of being wonderful, followed by a message that gets shorter, followed by nothing. Four times. I am not describing anybody cruel. I am describing a place where it is very easy to meet somebody and apparently impossible to keep going.
Switches in Miami
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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Divorced in March, and I am not ready for anything serious
Looking for: friendship and slow conversation with no expectations attached
Fourteen years, both sides, all of it inside one marriage.
The paperwork finished in March after two years of being finished emotionally. We were together nineteen years and this was in it for fourteen of them, which means everything I know about myself in this context I learned with one person who is no longer in my life.
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The scene here is eleven people and they have all dated each other
Looking for: somebody outside the small circle I have already exhausted
Eight years, both sides, and a complicated address book.
The visible part of this city's scene is much smaller than the city is. Once you have been around for a few years you discover it is essentially eleven people who have all, at some point, been involved with each other, and any new introduction comes with three prior histories attached to it.
Couples in Miami
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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He is on a plane most Mondays, and we work around it
Looking for: one person for something regular that survives a travel schedule
Twelve years together, eight with a structure, one previous arrangement.
He leaves on Monday morning and comes back Thursday night, most weeks, and has done for six years. That means our household runs on a four day rhythm that everybody who has ever been involved with us has had to accommodate.
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We have a spare room, which apparently makes us unusual here
Looking for: people who need somewhere and are worth having in our house
Fifteen years together, nine in this, plenty of hosting.
Half the messages we get eventually arrive at the same question, which is where. Everybody in this city seems to have roommates, a partner who does not know, a landlord who visits, or a lease with three names on it. We bought a small house out south seven years ago and we have a spare room, and it turns out that is the rarest thing we have to offer.
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Two of us from Caracas, seven years here, still looking for our people
Looking for: friends who share this, and no hurry about anything else
Sixteen years together, ten of them with this between us.
We left Caracas in a hurry and we arrived here with three suitcases and my sister's address. That was seven years ago. We have built a good life since, with work and a small apartment and a car that is finally ours, and the one thing we have not rebuilt is the circle of friends we had at home.
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