Everyone here is wonderful for eleven days, and then they are gone
Posted as eleven_good_days
- Looking for
- somebody who is still going to be here at Christmas
- Experience
- Six years, four dynamics, none of them longer than a season.
- Around
- South Beach, Miami
I have counted. The average length of every connection I have made in this city is somewhere around eleven days of being wonderful, followed by a message that gets shorter, followed by nothing. Four times. I am not describing anybody cruel. I am describing a place where it is very easy to meet somebody and apparently impossible to keep going.
Thirty two, South Beach, submissive, six years in and three of those years here.
I work in hospitality, which means I am part of the problem: my hours are terrible, I am off when everybody else is working, and half the people I meet through work are here for a week. I know what the churn looks like from the inside.
What I want is slow and boring in the best sense. Something that is still running in a year. Standing rules, a check in that happens on a Tuesday when nothing is going on, a person who is around in September when the city empties out and there is nothing to do.
If you are here for a season, I genuinely wish you a good one, and I am not the right person for it. If you have lived here for years and have the same complaint I do, write to me and let us both find out whether we are the problem.