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Dominants Fort Lauderdale, Miami

One evening a week, for years, and nothing more dramatic than that

Posted as one_evening_for_years

Looking for
a submissive who finds routine reassuring rather than dull
Experience
Twenty years, three dynamics, the shortest of them four years.
Around
Fort Lauderdale, Miami

Every dynamic I have had has looked the same from the outside. One evening a week, the same evening, for years. Nothing intense, nothing that would make a story, and by year two an enormous amount happening inside a routine that would bore anybody watching.

Forty nine, Fort Lauderdale, dominant, twenty years in. Three dynamics, of four, six and eight years.

I am posting because I have realized that what I want is easy to describe and almost impossible to advertise. There is no hook. I am not offering intensity, I do not have an unusual specialism, and my idea of a good year is fifty two Wednesdays that all went well.

What actually happens in those Wednesdays is the part I cannot put in a paragraph. Ritual that has been repeated enough times to mean something. Correction that lands because we both remember every previous time. Somebody who knows exactly what I will say before I say it and finds that a comfort rather than a limitation.

If you are newer to this, you may read all of that as a description of something small. I would only say that everybody I have had this with arrived wanting something bigger and stayed for years.

I am not interested in a scene, a weekend, or an experiment. I am offering a Wednesday, indefinitely, and I mean it as a considerable thing.

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