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Submissives Fort Lauderdale, Miami

Sixty three, experienced, and tired of being handled gently

Posted as stop_handling_gently

Looking for
a dominant who does not adjust everything because of my age
Experience
Twenty six years, two long arrangements, and a high tolerance.
Around
Fort Lauderdale, Miami

The last three people I talked to all did the same thing. They asked how old I was, and then everything they proposed afterwards got softer. Shorter sessions. Gentler suggestions. One of them said, kindly, that we would keep things comfortable, and I have been irritated about it for four months.

Sixty three, Fort Lauderdale, retired from aircraft maintenance, submissive, twenty six years in. I swim most mornings, I lift twice a week, and my doctor is bored by me.

I am not claiming to be thirty. There are things I did in my forties that I would not do now and I know exactly what they are, because I have been keeping track of my own body for a very long time. What I object to is somebody else deciding that list on my behalf, in advance, out of politeness.

What I want is a proper ongoing dynamic with a dominant who is exacting, who negotiates hard rather than carefully, and who will take my stated limits at face value in both directions.

I can host, I have plenty of time, and I am extremely easy to plan around.

If you find the idea of a man my age doing any of this either sweet or sad, I would ask you to keep scrolling, because I have had a lifetime of that and it is neither.

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