Five years abroad, all my experience is there, none of it is here
Posted as everything_elsewhere
- Looking for
- someone established who does not mind that I arrive knowing nobody
- Experience
- Six years, entirely in another country, and eight months back home.
- Around
- the centre, Moscow
I came back last autumn after five years away. Everything I have done in this happened over there, where I could walk into a room where nobody knew my surname and start from nothing. I am home now and I have discovered that the way people find each other here is not the way I learned.
Thirty three, submissive man, the centre, six years in, eight months back. Over there I could simply turn up. Here it appears that you are introduced or you are not, and the introducing is done by people who have known each other a long time and are careful about it, for reasons I understand completely and which nonetheless leave me on the outside of a door I can hear perfectly well through.
So this is the cold approach, and I know it is the weaker one. What I can offer in exchange for your patience is that I am not a beginner. I have negotiated properly dozens of times. I know what I am, what I want, and where my limits sit, and I will not need any of that explained.
What I want is a dominant with an established life who is willing to take on somebody who arrives with no references and no mutual acquaintances. I understand exactly why that is a risk and I have no way to answer it except slowly.
Not looking to be anybody's first. Not looking to be judged for having left and come back. Not looking for a long correspondence with no intention behind it, which has happened twice already.