BDSM personals in Moscow
Moscow is a large pool that keeps itself quiet. Discretion is the default rather than a preference, introductions tend to come through people who already know each other, and a cold post is expected to say something real about the writer before anyone answers it. The board here moves slower than its size suggests, and the posts that work are the patient ones.
Posts come from the centre, inside the ring road, the north, the south west and the near suburbs. People lead with where they are for a reason.
Dominants in Moscow
People looking to lead, and saying what that means to them.
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My mother lives two floors below me, which shapes everything about this
Looking for: a submissive who understands that my discretion is domestic, not professional
Eight years, two dynamics, both conducted almost entirely elsewhere.
Same building, same entrance, same three neighbours on the stairs who have known me since I was small and consider my life a shared interest. My mother is wonderful. She also comes up with soup unannounced roughly twice a week and has opinions about anybody she passes in the hall.
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I would like to write to you for a month before we ever meet
Looking for: a submissive who is genuinely good company in writing
Nineteen years, three dynamics, two of which began as letters.
The best thing I have ever had in this began with four months of writing and one meeting in a park at the end of it. By the time we sat down I knew how she thought, which is a thing photographs and lists are entirely useless for. I have never found a better method and I have stopped trying.
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I work nights in a machine room and I am sharpest at three
Looking for: a submissive who can hold a structure with no supervision for days
Ten years, three dynamics, all of them fitted around a night rota.
Four nights on, four off, and on the on nights I am alone with a great deal of humming equipment from ten in the evening until eight. I read, I write, I answer messages properly because there is time to. It is the most attentive I am all week and it happens when the rest of the city is unconscious.
Submissives in Moscow
People looking to submit, on terms they set out first.
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Thirty one, I share a flat with my grandmother, and I can never host
Looking for: a dominant who solves logistics instead of complaining about them
Two years, one dynamic of five months, my first and only.
She is eighty seven, she is sharp as a knife, and she is home every hour of every day. I am not moving out, because she should not be alone and because rent in this city is what it is. That is the first fact about me and every other fact arranges itself around it.
Switches in Moscow
People who go both ways and want a partner who can follow.
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I drive all day, my shift ends when it ends, and never at seven
Looking for: somebody who is not offended by a message that says running late again
Four years, one dynamic, ended by exhaustion rather than by anybody's fault.
Traffic decides my evenings. I finish when the last drop is done, and that has been anywhere between four in the afternoon and nine at night, and I have no way of knowing which until about an hour before. In four years I have never once been able to say with confidence what time I would be anywhere.
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Good chance I leave the city next summer, and you should know now
Looking for: someone who would rather have a good year than no year
Six years, two dynamics, one ended by a move that I also saw coming.
My work is likely to move me to another city around next June. Likely, not certain: perhaps three chances in four. I could leave that out of this post, meet somebody, get four months in and then mention it, and I have decided I am not going to, because it was done to me once and I have not forgotten how it felt.
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Switch, and much better at one side than the other, which is the problem
Looking for: a switch who is honest about which half they are worse at
Five years, two dynamics, both of them lopsided in the same direction.
I am good at submitting and I am mediocre at leading, and every time I have said this out loud somebody has told me that just means I am really a submissive. It does not. I want both. I am simply better practised at one of them, in the way that a person can be right handed and still want to use the other one.
Couples in Moscow
Partners searching together, with both of them in the post.
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Twenty eight and thirty, six months into admitting this, full of questions
Looking for: an experienced couple willing to talk to two beginners honestly
Four years together. Six months of knowing what to call any of it.
We have been together four years and this came up in February, sideways, during an argument about something else entirely. Since then it has taken over an enormous amount of our conversation and a fair amount of our life and we have almost no idea what we are doing.
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Our first attempt cost us a friendship, so here are our rules now
Looking for: another couple, met as strangers, on terms agreed before anything happens
Thirteen years together, six with this, one attempt that went badly.
Everybody here does it through people they already know. We did it that way too, four years ago, with friends of eight years standing, and it was a disaster in the slowest possible way. Nothing terrible happened. Two of the four of us wanted it more than the other two, nobody said so at the time, and the whole thing curdled over about five months and took the friendship with it. We still cross the street.
Writing your own
Reading fifty of these is the easy half. The handbook covers the rest.
- Writing a profile that says something
- Photographs, and staying anonymous enough
- The safety basics, in one page
- What a first meeting is actually like
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