Good chance I leave the city next summer, and you should know now
Posted as moving_in_a_year
- Looking for
- someone who would rather have a good year than no year
- Experience
- Six years, two dynamics, one ended by a move that I also saw coming.
- Around
- the south west, Moscow
My work is likely to move me to another city around next June. Likely, not certain: perhaps three chances in four. I could leave that out of this post, meet somebody, get four months in and then mention it, and I have decided I am not going to, because it was done to me once and I have not forgotten how it felt.
Thirty three, switch, the south west, six years in. I do quality work for a manufacturer and the site here is winding down, which is the whole of the story and there is nothing dramatic in it.
So the offer is a year, honestly labelled. Some people will close this immediately, which is a completely reasonable thing to do and no hard feelings. Some people are in exactly the same position, or want something with a shape to it, or are simply the kind of person who would rather have ten good months than spend them waiting for a permanent one that may not arrive.
What I want inside that year: something real rather than casual. Structure, regular time, both directions, and a proper ending rather than a fading one when it comes. I would like us to talk about the ending at the beginning, which sounds bleak and is actually the kindest thing I know how to offer.
I am even tempered, I cook badly, I am better at leading than following and want both. Not looking for anybody who will spend the year hoping I stay. Not looking for something casual. Not looking to be talked into pretending the date is not there.