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Dominants the north, Moscow

My mother lives two floors below me, which shapes everything about this

Posted as mother_downstairs

Looking for
a submissive who understands that my discretion is domestic, not professional
Experience
Eight years, two dynamics, both conducted almost entirely elsewhere.
Around
the north, Moscow

Same building, same entrance, same three neighbours on the stairs who have known me since I was small and consider my life a shared interest. My mother is wonderful. She also comes up with soup unannounced roughly twice a week and has opinions about anybody she passes in the hall.

Forty, dominant man, the north, eight years in. I mention all this first because people assume that a dominant who cannot host has some dramatic reason, and mine is that my mother lives two floors down and I love her and I am not going to explain a stranger to her.

What this means in practice is that anything at my place is essentially impossible, and I have built both my previous dynamics around that without much difficulty. It has never once been the reason something ended. The reasons have been ordinary ones.

What I want is a submissive woman for something ongoing. I lead in a quiet register: expectations that live in the week, tasks, a standing conversation every evening, and a real say in things she has agreed to hand over. Much of that needs no room at all, which is convenient given the above.

I cook well, I keep my word, and I am very hard to hurry. Not looking for somebody who wants to be shown off to anyone. Not looking for a woman who will find my situation funny for a month and inconvenient afterwards. Not looking to conduct anything at all in the building I live in, which I would have thought went without saying and did not, twice.

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